The DOMA Controversy

So. About that Supreme Court ruling today.

In case you haven’t heard the news, the US Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), an act that denied same-sex couples Social Security in the event a spouse died and other benefits married people receive. The Court voted it down 5-4, so it was a pretty close one.

My feelings are somewhat all-over-the-place regarding this situation. As a Catholic, I don’t stand for gay marriage. I love gay people, but there’s no way around that fact that homosexual acts are sinful. (Gay themselves are not, I repeat ARE NOT sinful based on their orientation.) Permitting gay marriage pretty much implies that these acts are acceptable.

For those who think the Catholic Church is homophobic, here’s what the Catechism ACTUALLY says:

1) Being gay isn’t just something people claim to be in order to get attention. There’s really something there. The Catholic Church doesn’t deny it.

Catechism evidence: “Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained.” “The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible.”

2) Homosexual acts aren’t good, but the homosexuals themselves are God’s children too!

Catechism evidence: ” ‘homosexual ACTS are intrinsically disordered.’ … They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity.”
“They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.” “Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.”

So why are my feelings complex regarding this situation?

Well, I don’t even get why the state is in charge of marriage in the first place. In most cultures, marriage is a religious act. I don’t care if you’re Catholic, Muslim, Protestant, or a follower of an animistic religion in Africa: marriage is religious and sacred. And now, as the United States has become increasingly secular, marriage has become increasingly secular. Marriage has become more of a legal instrument than a religious sacrament.

The state can legalize gay marriage, but it isn’t even really marriage in its true religious sense. I mean, seriously, even if a heterosexual couple is married by a justice of the peace, what does that even mean? It seems to mean that the couple is a unit financially and legally. It doesn’t mean they are united by God to be married to one another as Christ is married to His Church.

So, as far as I’m concerned, when a couple isn’t married in a church, it’s only technically a civil union. So marriage isn’t really being threatened because the Church won’t marry gay couples anyway.

God gave us free will. If some people want to sin via homosexual acts…I guess we can’t stop them. Individuals have to make the right decision, the decision to choose God over temptation. I’m not saying we shouldn’t try to fight against the legalization of same-sex marriage, but if we fail, the onus is not on us. It ultimately comes down to the individual.

And as a side note, I have a pet-peeve about the Supreme Court— just have to get it out:

Americans hail the decisions of the Supreme Court as the ultimate right. It’s like there are nine prophets in D.C. who stand on some high moral mountain receiving revelation from God. Sorry Justice Kennedy, but you ain’t no Moses!

It’s almost sickening. Just because the Supreme Court says so doesn’t mean it’s actually morally right. The justices are just sinners with opinions like you and me.

Sometimes I feel like people worship our wonderful country more than they worship out infinitely more wonderful God.


L’Évangélisation: en France et aux États-Unis (with English translation)


Bonjour aux catholiques du monde francophone! Je suis américaine, et je prend français à l’école. Mon français n’est pas très bon, alors je voudrais demander pardon en avance pour mes erreurs.

Mon blog est en anglais pour la plupart, mais peut-être je devrais faire quelques postes en français de temps en temps.

Maintenant: la poste pour aujourd’hui…

Puisque j’aime le français et le catholicisme, j’ai cherché des vidéos au sujet des choses catholiques en français sur YouTube. Et j’ai trouvé ça!:
Si vous comprenez le français (ou si vous êtes comme moi et comprenez des parties), regardez ça s’il vous plaît; c’est très chouette.

Après le voir, j’ai des nouvelles idées sur comment nous faisons d’évangélisation. Dans le vidéo, il y avait de jeunes catholiques qui sont devenus missionaires. Après apprendre comment à être missionaires, ils sont allés aux rues! Ils ont salué des gens, ils les ont invités à l’église, et ils les ont donnés de petites papiers avec information au sujet des festivales et des concertes catholiques! Et la chose la plus importante: ils ont partager leur foi avec les personnes. Pourquoi est-ce que nous ne faisons pas ces choses aux États-Unis? ÇA c’est d’évangéliser la culture!

En générale, je trouve qu’il y a plus de resources sur Internet pour des jeunes catholiques en français qu’en anglais. Par exemple, il y a <> sur YouTube qui est très amusant. (Pour une épisode:

Les États-Unis, le pays que j’aime: Tirez des jeunes à l’Église! Soyez comme l’autre pays que j’aime: la France!

In English:

Hello to the Catholics of the French speaking world! I am American, and I take French at school. My French isn’t good, so I apologize for my errors in advance.

My blog is mostly in English, but maybe I should do posts in French from time to time.

Now: the post for today:

Because I love French and Catholicism, I looked for videos in French on Catholic stuff on YouTube. And I found this:
If you understand French (or if you’re like me and understand parts of it), watch this please. It’s really cool!

After seeing it, I have new ideas about the way we evangelize. In the video, there were young Catholics who became missionaries. After learning how to be missionaries, they went to the roads! They greet people, they invited people to the church, and they gave them little papers about Catholic festivals and concerts! And the most important thing: they shared their faith with the people. Why don’t we do these things in the US? THAT’S evangelizing the culture!

In general, I find that there are more resources on the Internet for young Catholics in French than in English. For example, there’s “The Cathologue” on YouTube that is very amusing. (For an episode:

USA, the country I love: draw young people to the Church! Be like the other country I love: France!